I have been married for many years even decades. My wife never complains. She only makes observations. She observed that I left a mess in the kitchen. Or a huge pile of laundry. Or the refuse needs to go out.
Over the years she has observed everything. No matter how small it might be some observation has been done. And I’m sure we talked about it.
I don’t complain either. However, I do observe a lot. If fact I’m currently making a list of observations now. Its a big list.